We’ve all heard about the studies that show how divorce can negatively affect children. Many couples let their anger and frustration define their approach to divorce, making the split hard for their child to cope with. According to the Huffington Post, the thing that divorced couple’s most regret about their separation is the impact that it had on their children.
The truth is that it doesn’t have to be that way. Giving it some thought and exercising self control around your child can teach them what it means to be an adult and help them work through their feelings about the split. Below, you will find four tips for helping your child through divorce.
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1. Be Honest
When breaking the news, many couples mistakenly think that they should lie to their children to save them from the reality of the situation. It is important to come from a place of honesty when discussing the split; otherwise your child may grow to resent the lie when they are older.
That said, it is important to consider what information to share with them carefully.
2. Avoid Blaming Your Ex-Spouse
Anything you choose to share with your child should be truthful, but there are some issues that you may decide not to discuss with them. When explaining the reason for your split, make sure to avoid placing blame on your spouse because this could make your child anxious about choosing sides. Instead, try to agree on the best explanation of the split with your spouse before speaking to your child.
3. Practice Patience
It’s not uncommon for children to need some time to digest the news. While they are working through it, make yourself available to them and answer questions as they arise. Instead of speaking in absolutes, such as “that’s just the way it is,” try to acknowledge their concerns and explain why divorce is the only option.
4. Be Forthright About Changes
Although you should be careful not to overwhelm your child with the logistics of the split, give them plenty of warning about changes in their day-to-day life. Tell them about your plan for living and schooling arrangements, and try to limit the impact that the divorce will have on their routine.
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