An astonishing number of marriages in the United States simply do not survive. While statistics vary, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that there are 6.8 marriages per 1,000 total population, with a subsequent divorce rate of approximately 3.6 per 1,000 total population. Based on these numbers, more than half of all marriages will end in divorce.
By nature, divorce is a complicated and messy affair, and it is often a last resort for couples experiencing problems. In many cases, it is inevitable, but with a logical and congenial approach, there are a number of ways to make the split as pain free as possible.
If you are going through a divorce with your spouse and you are looking for a Queens divorce attorney to ensure that you receive fair treatment, give the Law Office of Elliot Green a call at 718-260-8668. We will schedule a free 30-minute initial consultation to discuss your case.
1. Cooperate and Communicate
The American Psychological Association says that any divorce or potential divorce will be heated. There will be a flood of emotions such as fear, anxiety and grief.
These emotions are unavoidable and will affect your daily life during the process. However, experts agree that they will eventually subside, at which point it is important to open channels of communication with your partner. They suggest that you avoid engaging your partner during moments of heightened emotion.
2. Do Not Think of Divorce as a Battle
Furthermore, the American Psychological Association suggests that it is important not to think of the breakup as a battle. To assist with this process, the APA recommends some form of divorce mediation. Mediation will ensure that each spouse has a voice, which is especially important if the couple has children. Anyone can assist with the mediation process; however, a family lawyer can add a level of legal expertise to the negotiations.
3. Sit Down and Talk
It might not be something that you want to do, but at some point, you will have to sit down and talk with your spouse. Psychologists agree that cooperation is crucial for smoothing over a split, no matter how difficult communication may seem. Many also recommend that you sit down and talk with a registered psychologist alone in order to assess your emotions.
4. Write Down Your Thoughts and Emotions
During a traumatic divorce, it will be difficult to stay calm and rational. The APA suggests writing down all the points you want to discuss with your spouse so you can bring them up at the right time.
When a marriage is beyond repair, divorce may be the most viable option for you and your spouse. If you are looking for a Staten Island family lawyer to represent your interests in the divorce process, give us a call at 718-260-8668. The Law Office of Elliot Green has many years of experience in family law, and we can assist clients throughout New York.
