According to the Huffington Post, the number of divorces may be increasing steadily rather than decreasing as previously speculated. Most experts claim that the decrease began in the 1970s and has continued through until today, but a close inspection at the methods used to make this claim may disprove it entirely.
Although the overall divorce trend is open for debate, one demographic has indisputably increased. For U.S. adults over 50, the divorce rate has doubled in the past 20 years.
When grandparents divorce, the spilt is slightly easier from a legal perspective. You will still need an attorney to help you through the division of assets, especially when it comes time to determine what claim partners have to social-security payouts and retirement funds, but you aren’t likely to be fighting for custody of children or paying child support.
However, that isn’t to say that you won’t be facing some of the same family issues, especially when it comes time to discuss the divorce with your children and grandchildren. Below, you’ll find five tips to help you through that process. For the legal side of divorce, let us help.
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1. Don’t Put The Grandkids In The Middle Of Your Divorce
If your ex-spouse is dangerous, violent or mentally ill, you may have the responsibility to warn your children to limit the grandchildren’s exposure to them. Otherwise, asking anyone to choose sides is unfair for everyone involved.
Kids are sensitive to any changes in family structures, and their biggest concern during any split is the possibility of abandonment. Forcing your ex-spouse out of their lives will only confirm those fears and make them feel unloved.
Recognizing these fears, you should also make an effort to reassure them that both you and your ex-love will remain in their lives.
2. Be A Role Model
Take a moment to imagine that your grandchild marries and gets a divorce in the future. How would you like them to behave during their divorce?
The best way to ensure that they develop a healthy outlook on relationships is to show them. Divorces are tough, but a well-adjusted adult should be able to get through them without devolving into pettiness and shouting, at least in front of the kids.
You can explain why you are separating with your spouse, but keep the explanation free of blame. Just tell them that you two can’t get along.
3. Don’t Disrupt Routines
Children find comfort in routines, disruptions to their schedules causes much of the stress they experience during any divorce. If you go to their baseball games every other Saturday or take them for ice cream after school on Fridays, try to maintain those habits.
All in all, the key to helping children cope with a divorce is to be supportive and attentive to their needs. On the other hand, separating from someone that you’ve spent decades married to is much more complicated. To discuss your divorce during a free consultation, Call Us At 718-260-8668 Today!
