Many people do not realize the full consequences of divorce until after the process is complete. Adjusting to life after a marriage ends can be difficult to say the least, and one of the most challenging issues is the loss of mutual friends that you and your spouse shared.
Couples who had a tight circle of friends when they were together may find it difficult to approach this issue, and losing personal connections may make the recovery process significantly harder – particularly if you continue to encounter your ex at social gatherings. With the correct approach, though, you may be able to retain your mutual friends and the support network that you enjoyed during marriage.
At the Elliot Green Law Offices, we can handle the legal aspects of your divorce so you can focus on your own well-being and personal development. If you are considering a divorce or wish to consult a Queens divorce attorney, call Mr. Green today at 718-260-8668 to schedule an appointment. He offers free 30-minute consultations. Our service line is available 24 hours a day, and we are ready to give your case the attention it deserves.
In the meantime, here are three possible ways to retain mutual friends after a divorce:
- Be Honest with Friends
According to Psychology Today, it is important to discuss your situation openly with your friends and to express your emotions to them regarding the breakup. You should also explain how you would feel if you saw your ex in public and, if necessary, tell them that you need some time apart from your former spouse. At this stage, you will learn if your friends are willing to accommodate you and your spouse separately.
- Plan Ahead
If you are going to a social function that your ex may also be attending, call your friends, and determine if he or she will be there. If the thought of seeing your ex in public upsets you, avoid the function. Your friends should understand your situation and support you through it.
- Be Nice
Avoid talking badly or gossiping about your ex. Experts believe that this will likely cause you and your ex-spouse more harm in the long-run – particularly if you are still sharing the same circle of friends.
Remain respectful and honest, and do not try to use your friends to get back at your ex. It is important to remember that your friends may feel an obligation to share what you tell them with your ex, and spreading rumors may be counterproductive to your own social well-being.
If you are looking for legal advice regarding a family matter, such as child custody or asset division, contact the Elliot Green Law Offices. Mr. Green is an experienced Staten Island family lawyer, and he can evaluate your situation and advise you on how to proceed. Schedule an appointment today by calling 718-260-8668.
