For many divorcees, the day they sign the divorce agreement is the last day they ever need to see their spouse. This arrangement can be conducive to healing and closure. However, not everyone has the opportunity to cut their ex-spouse out of their life.
In most cases, this is because of a joint custody agreement. This can easily lead to tension, especially if there are unresolved emotional issues from the marriage. There is no one-size-fits-all way to deal with an unreasonable ex, and the tactic that works will depend on the situation, but the three tips below should at least provide a jumping off point.
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1. Set Clear Boundaries Right Away
Psychology Today reports that it’s important for new divorcees to be very clear about how they see the connection with their ex working while moving forward. For instance, exes often let poor communication habits from the marriage spill over into post-divorce life. If one spouse has developed the tendency to raise their voice or name call, the other should be firm when insisting that the behavior cannot continue after the separation. At the very least, setting down clear boundaries allows the slighted spouse to give a reason for terminating communication if the behavior continues.
2. Recognize When It’s Time to Take a Break
If problems persist, it may be better for everyone to take a break from communicating or to at least change the method. The Huffington Postrecommends that ex-spouses remain as calm as possible when informing the other parent that they will no longer be communicating until they are more reasonable. If communication is necessary, try using text messages or email to give both sides a chance to read their own words before pressing send.
3. Use a Script
It may seem strange, but there are many parents that swear by this tip. If every conversation tends to escalate into a fight, it’s smart to take a moment before the phone call to write out a script that only includes the necessary talking points and stick to it. This can go a long way toward keeping the conversation civil, and over time, the practice can change the habits that are causing the problems.
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