BROOKLYN, New York. Divorce can be much more difficult than a breakup before you were married. While divorce is a highly personal decision, it is also a legal one with financial ramifications. If you have children, you’ll also need to make choices about where your children will live and how parenting time will be split. Consider speaking to a compassionate divorce lawyer like the Elliot Green Law Offices in Brooklyn, New York today to discuss these concerns and more. Let your lawyer take care of the legal aspects so that you can focus on what matters—your well-being and your family’s future. Here are 12 things you can do to heal your broken heart if you are going through a divorce.
- Create distance and boundaries. Divorce, like any breakup is a challenging process, but if you and your ex purchased a home together and can’t live in separate places right away, getting distance from your ex can be a challenge. How can you get space if you need time to sell your home or sort out your situation? Consider creating your own spaces within the house. Even a small house can be divided, so that you each have privacy and space to heal.
- Put away memory triggers. You don’t need to throw away all the photos you took during your marriage or burn your wedding pictures, because these memories are a part of your life, and, if you have children, a part of your family. However, you may want to set these mementos aside in a place where they won’t trigger you every day. Cosmopolitan suggests creating a “breakup box” or space where you can store these triggering items.
- Eat right and sleep well. You might not have an appetite and might have trouble sleeping in your bed alone, but getting enough sleep and proper nutrition will help you heal emotionally and physically.
- Exercise. Workouts release endorphins. These are feel-good chemicals. You need these.
- Go outside. Sunshine, fresh air, nature, and walks in the park can help you rebalance.
- Tap into your social supports. Lean on family and friendships. Divorce and breakups can lead to serious questions about self and connection to other people. Your friends will remind you who you are, help you talk through the tough bits, and can help you out if you need a babysitter when you visit your divorce lawyer’s office.
- Get in touch with your emotions. Divorce should be sad. While you might also feel feelings like relief or even euphoria to be out of a tough relationship, the grieving process is essential to moving on. Cry when you need to.
- Stay away from social media. It’s bad enough seeing your ex hanging out with another woman or man on your feed, but much worse would be posting something on Facebook or Instagram that could later be used against you during your divorce. Divorce lawyers sometimes review ex’s profiles to see if there’s anything incriminating. Hang low for a while.
- Write it out. Refinery29 recommends that you write a letter to your ex, but don’t send it. Say everything you want to say. This could also prevent you from posting something you’ll later regret on social media.
- Take a Tylenol. Over the counter pain medication can actually help you cope with the pain of heartbreak. The pain people feel when their hearts are broken is literal pain. When you need to get to work or have an important meeting, treat your heartbreak like you would a headache, but make sure to make time to process the feelings later.
- Give it time. It sounds like a cliché, but according to Refinery29, many people start to feel much better in as little as three months after a breakup.
- Talk to a lawyer today. The Law Offices of Elliot Green are divorce lawyers in Brooklyn, New York who can help you manage the legal and financial aspects of your divorce, so you can sell the house, sign the paperwork, and move on with your life.
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